Monthly Archives: June 2010
I hope all of the father’s out there were really blessed by their families on Father’s Day. I know that I had an amazing day. My family took great care of me and we had a lot of fun together. We had lunch at Texas Roadhouse (my aunt and uncle joined us as well). Then it was off to a short nap and some relaxation in the afternoon. And then we had a family movie night. It was a great day.
But there was one very special moment that stuck out a little more than the rest. It was Saturday and my son, Grant, came to me with a card. It was a day early but he said he decided he wanted to give it to me ahead of time. The outside of the card had the words, “To Dad, From Grant” written in crayon and pencil. It was his homemade card just for me. Then I opened it to read the inside. And this is what he had to say (punctuation corrections mine).
I love you, Dad
I love you, Dad
I love you, Dad
You’re funny and you’re tall
You can swim and you can bike
But I love it when you’re home best of all.
I thought this was pretty sweet of him. He had taken a poetry class at school and put it to good use. Father’s Day is great! I can’t wait for next year already.
What did you do for Father’s Day?
What sticks out to you about your father?
On June 3, 2000, I was married to a beautiful, young lady named Misty. It has been 10 years since we were married. Our life has been one incredible journey. It has been a journey of faith, one that has inspired, one that has hurt and one that has drawn us close together.
We just returned from an overnight stay for our Anniversary. It got me thinking about our life together. After 10 years, there are many things that I have learned and many things that I have yet to learn. For now, I want to share the top ten things I love about my wife (in no particular order).
10 – Her Tireless Care For Her Family
I don’t know any more who works as hard for her family as my wife. There is probably a reason why at the end of the day she basically crashes on her bed. She tirelessly cares for her family…all 4 of us…all day long. It is her caring heart for us that has endeared me to her.
9 – Her Ability To See The Positive In Any Situation
Has your family ever been in a situation that could easily become an “end of the world” type of situation. We have experienced those like all other normal, families. However, there is one minor difference in our home. My wife can find a way to make it a positive. I have seen our kids do some of the craziest, off the wall things, and my wife will say something like, “Grab the camera. This is hilarious.” It’s one of those things that is small, but it is invaluable to daily life. And I’m even more thankful for the way she see the positives in my many gaffs. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life and my wife always helps me see the positive and how I can grow through it.
8 – The Way She Encourages The Best In Her Kids
She has an amazing ability to see gifts and abilities in her children. She sees them as unique and understands that it is important to direct those talents in the right direction. When our kids have the chance to use their abilities, she is right there to encourage them in the right direction. I love the way she encourages the best in our kids.
7 – Her Passion To Use Her Gifts And Abilities
My wife flies in the face of the stereotypical, stay at home wife. Many people see stay at home moms as held back, or 1950’s kitchen mom’s or whatever other stereotype you can think of. My wife has gifts and talents. She knows what they are. And she finds a way to use them. She loves photography, so she started a photography business. She loves children, so she is getting a job at a pre-school. She is passionately following her gifts and abilities. And I love to watch her flourish.
6 – Her Ability To Move Beyond Life’s Difficulties
I will not be sharing any details in this post about “life’s difficulties.” However, I have seen my wife go through some of the most difficult situations a wife and mother should ever have to be put in. I have held her while she has cried because she has felt that she lost too many years of our children’s lives to some difficult ministry situations. I have seen her encounter steps of faith that can be difficult at first, yet she always handles them with grace. When life has been difficult, she has taken it head on, then graciously overcome the obstacle. She is the strongest woman I know and I’m so thankful for that.
5 – Her Willingness To Put Her Life On Pause For Nearly A Decade
My wife has gifts and abilities that drive her to want to accomplish things with her life. Yet she has been the most sacrificial wife I know. She has given so much of herself to me and her children. I get more angry as a father when I feel myself taking advantage of her for that, or when I see our kids sometimes act ungrateful toward their mom. None of us has any real idea how much she has sacrificed for us. And for that, I am forever indebted to her. Thank you for sacrificing so much for us my love.
4 – The Way She Soaks In New Information
One of my favorite things about my wife is her desire to grow and learn new things. I love watching her read a book. You can see her eyes light up as she learns something new. She likes to share the many details of something insight she has gained. We could talk for hours about her thoughts on LOST. I just love watching her grow even smarter, leaving me in the dust intellectually.
3 – The Way She Looks At Me
Sometimes when things in life are a little bumpy, we will have deep conversations. But when the going gets tough, she sometimes gives me this look. It’s not the general “look” that most men get. It’s not the “look” that the husbands on TV get when their wives are annoyed at them. She looks at me as if to say, “Stan, I trust you and I believe in you.” Pretty sure she has said those words, but when she looks at me and puts her trust and security in my leadership, I am fulfilled. She helps me become who God wants me to be. The only way I can fulfill my purpose in life is when my wife allows me to and helps me accomplish it. Thank you for helping me fulfill my purpose in life, Misty.
2 – The Way She Weaves God Into Our Daily Life
Many times I have heard her in a conversation with our children and she will begin to quote Scripture. She has an incredible ability to weave things of God into the daily life of our family. Many people might think they have to be scholars and theologians to do this, but it’s just the simply, every day things when you can help your kids see God in a practical way. I love to watch her when she is in this mode. It’s beautiful to see God be brought into our lives in a practical way.
1 – Because She Loves Me
I love her back because I can see in her life and actions that she loves me first. I am so thankful for her unconditional love, even when I’m at my worst. She always loves me first. My stupid pride gets in the way sometimes, but she never fails to be humble and show me her love through her actions. I can see so much of how God loves me, just by watching her. And after all, isn’t that how we are supposed to show the world God’s love for us, by living it out with each other? She has an amazing depth to her love. I only hope I can hold half the love for others that she has.
My wife is a beautiful, articulate, intelligent, loving and compassionate individual. God is doing big things in her life and I am lucky to be able to share life with her. Thanks for the last 10 years my love. I can’t wait to see what the next 10 bring. I love you so much!
It’s fun to watch some of the people in our neighborhood walk their dogs. It’s early in the morning and they are enjoying a nice, peaceful walk. In one hand is the leash and in the other is a plastic bag. This is about the time the dog stops to take care of his business in the neighbor’s yard. When the dog is finished, the owner takes the plastic bag, bends over (very funny considering some of the people who live around here) and picks up their dog’s leftovers.
While it isn’t the best representation, this is very much what our relationship with Jesus is like. We walk around and make messes, He is there to clean it up.
Remember Mark 9? Jesus and His closest disciples, Peter, James and John, are coming down the mountain right after the transfiguration. They encounter a huge group of people. He finds that His other disciples have tried to cast out a demon but were unable to. The father of the child is frustrated about the situation. Jesus cleans up the mess.
Remember John 18? Jesus is in the process of being betrayed by Judas. Soldiers have stepped forward to arrest Christ. Peter has just told Jesus he will die for Him and he begins to put those words into action. He draws his sword and cuts of the ear of the High Priest’s servant, Malchus. Jesus halts the madness, bends down, grabs the severed ear off the ground and heals the servant. Jesus cleans up the mess.
As we grow in discipleship, one of the lessons we will learn is that we can’t do this alone. Ultimately, we aren’t good enough to clean up our own messes. There is nothing we can do that is good enough that will clean up the mess of sin that we have made.
In Jesus’ greatest act on earth of “cleaning up the mess,” He died on a cross to become the ultimate payment for all of our messes. He came to earth to show us His love and to offer His grace and forgiveness. When it comes to discipleship, we will never be perfect. Humans will almost always find a way to mess things up. That’s why I’m so thankful for Jesus Christ, who died and rose again to take that mess away from me.
Thanks be to Jesus Christ for His amazing love.
Thank You Jesus, for cleaning up after me when I continually find a way to screw things up.
Thank You Jesus, for your grace that overlooks the many messes I have made.
Thank You Jesus, for making me right with God even when I didn’t deserve it.
What do you think? Hoping to hear from you on this one.
Am I way out of line on the analogy?