A Hidden Hypocrisy!
It was a great day! A couple of fantastic meetings. A fun evening with the family at Chick-Fil-A. They had a “Prince/Princess” night, and all the little princes and princesses got free ice cream. We had a great time and even met the Chick-Fil-A cow.
But something happened on the way home. We stopped at Target to grab a few must-have items for the house. My wife ran in and the kids and I hung out in the van. This is when car rides can explode. The kids get bored. What’s the logical next step. Hit each other in the heads with balloons. Makes sense.
My sons were really getting after it and I was trying to be patient. I was allowing them to burn off some of that excess energy. Then my oldest son, Grant, said something to Ashton.
“Ashton, I’m not playing with you any more. You always quit.”
As he was quitting, he was chewing out his brother for quitting.
I of course (at a time I should have waited anyway) jumped in at this point and told Grant that he couldn’t quit a game while chewing his brother out for quitting. That didn’t make any sense. Truthfully, that would be a hypocritical thing to do. To say one thing, while living another, is hypocrisy.
Then it hit me. That’s exactly what I do as a dad. I tell the kids what to do, but I so often fail to live by my own rules.
“Kids, stop treating each other disrespectfully.” Said while I yell or speak in a disrespectful tone.
“Hey, pick up your stuff. Stop leaving a mess.” Said while my “garments” lie strewn all over my bedroom floor.
“Hey, listen to your mother when she’s talking to you.” Said while I assume I know better than my wife and fail to listen and respect her advice.
You see, parenting brings out a hidden hypocrisy that is inside of us. When we make laws (rules) as parents that we expect our kids to follow, but we ourselves abide by no rules. We say one thing to them and they watch us live something entirely different.
Is it any wonder, so many kids grow up disillusioned with the Christian faith? Is it any wonder so many Christian kids grow up and give up on their faith by the time they leave college? It’s not really any wonder, is it?
Have you uncovered any hidden hypocrisies in your life as a parent?
Am I crazy?